posted by annes at 11:22 AM
Actually, my Dorian figure is probably my mom. Unlike Basil and Gray however, I look to my mom in amazement as well as with a mutual respect. I don't view her as being above my level or so great that I could never meet her at her level. This is how I believe Basil views Gray.
The Dorian in my life that influences me is Derek Jeter. Jeter is the ultimate baseball player and in my mind is the best. He lives to play baseball and takes pride in perfection. Every day is another day to improve and to get better. Besides being a great baseball player he is a born leader. He leads his team to be better and doesn't worry on his personal problems alone. He wants to improve the skill level of everyone on his team. He is just as concerned about others as he is about him self. I have always looked up to Derek Jeter as my hero because of those qualities.
First off I really like this question because it applies and connects more to the individual... So props for that...This question is kind of hard for me to answer and I don't really know why... I think that for different aspects of my life my mother and my sisters are my Dorian. My sister Stephanie continually amazes me with the wonderful children that she is upbringing and what makes her my Dorian is that I respect her and am going to model the way I bring up my children after her. For my sister Melodie, she continually amazes me in the fact that she lives life as it comes to her. The qualities that I admire from her is her laid back approach and self awareness she has towards life. For my sister Lisa, I am conitually amazed by the way she continually succeeds in her work and that is something that I admire from her...Sorry for all of the shout outs, but I think what I am trying to say in a nut shell is that people have different aspects that make them my Dorian. I admire a number of different people for their "Dorian qualities."I don't just admire one person for all of their attributes. I think this is because I don't like myself relying on just one person. Ultimitely in the end if you devote your life to one hero or one model you get yourself hurt. And I think that this will definitely apply to the people in the book, as morbid and negative as that sounds.
The person who is an influence in my life and who i see as my Dorian is Tiger Woods. Tiger has overcome many different obstacles to get to where he is today. To get to this point, Tiger has an intense work ethic that does nothing but force him to get better. He understands that the only way to increase his skill is to practice. I admire Tiger because he has always worked hard and has never taken no as an answer. He has demonstrated that with determination and hard work, you can achieve anything you want.
Well I really like leanne's response. I have thought about who is my Dorian all day. I feel the same way as leanne on how I am unable to choose one person to be my Dorian because throughout my life I am going to look up to more than one person. Everyone brings something different to eachother's lives.My Dorians are, my sister,Allison ,she is very laid back and goes with the flow. She does not care what she looks like to others, she only cares if she is having fun. My brother, Austen because he is very intelligent and also does not care about what he looks, like or how he portrays himself to others. If they do not like him he moves on and knows that person is not worth his time. My mom and dad both are. they both stand up for themselves and does not take any "bologna". Everyone in my life is my DOrian. I find certain characteristics of my friends, family, and peers that I really admire.
I want to begin by agreeing with Leanne. It is hard for me to single out one person in my life that has or does influence my life in the way that Dorian influences Basil. However, if i ahd to choose one it would be my grandfather. I will always be drawn to the integrity and character that a person has rather than their looks and background. I rarely get to see my grandfather anymore since moving to Colorado, but whenever I do see him I am amazed by his integrity and his innocent, uncorrupted mindset. He influences me most like Dorian because I have a greater sense of life and wisdom when I am around him. Unlike Dorian, my grandfather's beauty comes from his vast knowledge of life and his many experiences on Earth. I always learn something new and interesting from him when I visit him.
Personally, I don't think I can honestly say that I've met a person that affected me like Dorian affects Basil. I've met a lot of people who have had vast effects on my life, but I have yet to know someone who changed my whole perception of life the way that Dorian seems to do for Basil. Even so, the person that I would say has had the greatest impact of my outlook on the world is probably my grandpa as well. He coached high school football for over 30 years and taught math, and he has an immense work ethic and tremendous knowledge and wisdom that I can only hope I will achieve someday. I have taken many life lessons from him, and continue to do so even as I get older. Although he hasn't had quite the sudden and soul stirring effect on my life that Dorian has on Basil, I guess in a way he could be my "Dorian".
I, too, look at my mom as my Dorian Gray. If I grow up to be half the woman she is, I know my life will amount to something pretty great. There are a ton of amazing mothers out there, and of course I am bias, but I think it takes an unbelievable kind of strength to be a single mother and sacrifice everything for your kids. She's the most selfless person I've ever met and the example of who I want to be. She has been through sooo much in her life and I would someday like to say that I possess the same kind of strength and grace.
The way that Basil views Dorian makes me think that Dorian has done something great in his life, and that would be the reason for his admiration. In fact, the opposite is true. Dorian has hardly experienced anything and Basil admires him for his innocence and youth. If I had to pinpoint one person that I admire it would be my grandpa. I wish to have many of his qualities, much like Basil wants to obtain Dorian's qualities. My grandpa works seventy hour weeks on his farm to this day. He works extremely hard despite his old age. He takes so much pride in his work and is satisfied with what he has accomplished. When I am in my later years I want to be able to say I am proud of what I have done and I am satisfied.
I do believe there are people whom I know and admire greatly, though I am not sure if there is someone I look at in the same way Basil views Dorian. This is because Basil's attitude towards Dorian is simply so...peculiar. Dorian is not just a pretty model used for making pretty paintings. Basil tells Lord Henry that "The sitter is merely an accident, the occasion. It is not [Dorian] who is revealed by the painter; it is rather the painter, who on the coloured canvas, reveals himself" (Chapter 1). Basil refuses to show his best painting of Dorian to the public because it reveals the painter's tightest kept secret--his soul. Basil also hesitates to tell Dorian's to Lord Henry in the first chapter because he feels that revealing the name is like "surrendering a part of [Dorian]." Now I will confess, there are people in life I admire. I believe most people possess some virtuous qualities that are worth humble imitation. But can't remember a time that I have admired someone so much that I have tried to keep them secret, tried to keep them to myself. This will sound cliché, but I believe you honor someone the most by letting them act freely, even if it means letting them make mistakes or do themselves harm.
I'm gonna agree with lyons on this one. I don't think that there has been a person that has affected me in the way Dorian does to Basil. Like Levi said Basil admires Dorian not for any outstanding accomplishments or strong display of character. He simply admires him for his physical features, and his youth. Now i can promise you I have never looked at a dude and felt anything close to that. But i have admired people and looked up to people for things that they have done or accomplished, not just for simply being them. So...no i dont have a dorain in the same sense that Basil does.
So I have to agree with Levi that the reason Basil looks up to Dorian is because of his beauty and innocence. I can't say I have ever looked up to someone for these reasons. Even though innocence isn't a bad thing I don't think it is a reason to admire someone that greatly. I also can say I have never met someone who has completely consumed me or that if I didn't seem them then that day would be miserable. So I can’t really say that I have a Dorian in my life.
The Dorian in my life I would say is my brother beacuse he has influenced me through most of my life, even though Dorian's was changed in one day. The different things my brother has accomplished and done makes me more motivated. Also I look up to him beacuse he has been my guide for many years and will be for many years to come.
I think that everyone is reading into this question a little too much. It's really just asking for someone that you admire and makes you want to be someone better.For me this person is my friend Chris. He moved here from Tennesee a year ago and became a youth leader at my church. His story is long and detailed but basically he has made me want to be a person I never thought I could even dream of. He's wonderful and although I don't see him in a passionate and envious way, I look up to him and want a lot that he has when it comes to personality.
My "Dorian figure" would be my brother. He has had to fight through some tough battles to get where he is today and he has found a way to do well in high school and now college too. Not only has he done that, but he influences my life on a very regular basis.
The Dorian in my life, or the closest thing to it, would be my dad. He is the person that has affected and inspired me the most. I do not think he is a perfect Dorian figure because he has actually worked for my admiration. He has taught me almost everything that I use to live my life. But there is no perfect and true Dorian in my life.
I don't believe that I have a "Dorian" in my life. Although I do have many people that I look up to like everyone else has been saying but I don't think I have anyone that fits what Dorian is to Basil. I don't know that Basil is actually obsessed with Dorian and his accomplishments enough to be that amazed with him. I think it is more about his good looks since Basil is obsessed with painting him. So I don't really have one person that fills the "Dorian amazement" for me.
Even though I agree with Scott that there is no one I am obsessing over and, like sonny said, there is no one I admire so much that I want to hide them, there are still many people I look up to. My youth group leader, Clayton, is the person that stands out above the classic “my dad, my mom” type answers because he takes time and really tries to connect and be there for me. (Don't get me wrong I do look up to my parents and admire them very much) He has taught me a lot about my faith without telling me what to believe or preaching it to me as if he were better. He uses his own experiences and mess-ups to show what he has learned.
I have to agree with Scott and Nathan. I don't have anyone in my life that I raise on a pedestal enough to be considered Dorian-esque. I simply respect many people in my life (never to the point of obsession). If we define our Dorian as simply being someone we look up to and are amazed by, then my Dad fulfills that description. I look up to him and am constantly amazed by how he deals with situations and problems. I respect him and set him on a higher pedestal than others in my life. Sonny, you could always be my Dorian. (I'm not serious. I know I already scare you and appear to be some kind of creepy stalker, so saying things like that don't help.)
Basil's adoration of dorian is something that i personally do not parallel. He clearly loves everything about Dorian, and that can be seen through his time commitment on his artwork. I would agree with scott and nathan that i dont have i "Dorian" i think everyone needs to have idols and people to look up to, but not neccasarily to the degree that basil admires dorian
The Dorian in my life would clearly have to be my dad. He is someone that I can always look up to. He has constantly experienced success in everything he has done. Also, he is someone that has taught me through his experiences. I am constantly growing and learning from and through him. He is someone that I really look up to and pedestal. He has been a constant influence in my life, but I really do not think that is a bad thing at all. I am glad that he has inspired me and taught me so much.
Although there really is not anyone in my life that would be a "dorian" someone im basically obsessed with. I do have many people I look up to. My dad and my brother are the big ones. I look up to both of them and they are people that I would want to be. They make me proud to say I know them and that they are my family.
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